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“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams…
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I have come to understand that the first step to change is understanding where you currently are and why you are where you are. Unfortunately, sometimes the biggest catalyzer for change is the pain we feel in the reality we…
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So last week I shared a little about how the environment I had grown up had contributed to my codependency. As well as how I understood that as an African woman, this is something that had been passed down through…
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The last video I posted on abantumay was on whether we as Africans are raised to be codependent by nature/tradition? I wanted to explore this subject further by sharing how my own African home upbringing raised me to become co-dependent…
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They say life and death are weighed on the lips of the human. We are constantly shaping our reality, not only on what we say, but also what we think of. What occupies our minds. I believe that all change…
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In the Greek mythology of Narcissus, we hear a tale of a man who was prophesized to ‘live to a ripe old age, as long as he never knows himself’. Unfortunately for Narcissus, he one day finds a river and in…
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When we were younger, we learned the importance of saying “thank you”. Thank you for the food, thank you for a gift, thank you for a surprise or for a favour but we never really learned about the practice of thanking…
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Sometimes life feels like a sitcom cliché – like how you watch an episode and there is clearly a theme or a “lesson” to be learned and somehow, everything then leads up to that lesson or supports it in some…
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These last few years in my personal growth have been about becoming good at managing my own goals, having respect for my schedule and living up to my potential. I have managed to make great strides in this department in…
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Hey you, welcome 🙂 This is me, May, soul grand-daughter of Miss Maya Angelou who once said “‘My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style” And that is exactly how I try to live my little life.
